Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Six Words

Our local bookseller back home (Schwartz Books) has sponsored a contest for a Six Word Memoir. The inspiration is a new book called "Not Quite What I Was Planning: Six-Word Memoirs by Writers Famous and Obscure" (link here: http://schwartzbooks.booksense.com/NASApp/store/Product?s=showproduct&isbn=9780061374050)

Hemingway wrote, "For sale: Baby shoes, never worn."

Other memoirs:
Not quite what I was planning.
Found true love, married someone else.
After Harvard, had baby with crackhead.
I still make coffee for two.
Married for money. Divorced for love.

My story, "Ordinary gal. Original rocker. Opposites attract."

What's yours?

Anonymous said... Upon meeting me; people do well.
Other memoirs...
Savor the moment, wish I had.
Always searching, but not actually lost.
Lives in head; head is full.

Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Barbie - Destroyer of the World

I will admit, I'm not a Barbie fan.

I don't like that she's all pink and girlie. Her greatest adventure is to put on her roller blades (not forgetting to don her tiny little knee and elbow guards). I don't like the consumerism of buying all the accessories et al. Of course there's the whole body-image issues - although I'm not so worried about that.

Lyra has a doll from China that is "barbie-like". She has a Chinese costume on and long black hair. She played with her for about 1 day after opening the package. She also has a "Coming Home Barbie" that she doesn't know about. When we were in China, Mattel had a deal with the hotel where we were staying that they gave all families a Barbie doll with a little Chinese baby in her arms. I've kept it as a momento - but it kind of makes me queasy. I don't like the implication that Lyra was a toy or that adopting a baby can be sponsored by Mattel. Anyway, I still have it for her.

Here in Dubai, they have a character called Fulla. Fulla toys fill the shelves in the toy aisles here. Girls get Fulla backpacks, Fulla tennis shoes, Fulla bicycles, Fulla pencils, Fulla stickers, Fulla everything. All her items come packaged in pink, just like Barbie. She wears an abaya and shayla and you can purchase a pink Fulla prayer mat for her. She has brown eyes, brown hair, and doesn't come with those scandalously skimpy swimming costumes. Lyra has her coloring books and has sent a few to friends back home. Russell liked the irony. But to me - I have the same problems with her as Barbie.

So much for not being a fan. We now have a Barbie, Fulla, and our Chinese version of a Barbie in the house - how did this happen? TodayI've read that as much as Barbie makes me uncomfortable, she is viewed as " a 'danger' that needs to be stopped" in Iran http://www.gulfnews.com/region/Iran/10209372.html. Good luck to them. Barbie has a way of insinuating herself into your life.

Mamacita said...
I'm more afraid of her pimped out cousin....The BRAT Doll.

Yeah, I'm with you there! We don't have any Bratz dolls in the house and so far none of Lyra's friends seem to be into them either. I'm thinking that maybe this will come in a few years. One of the things I miss about home is that our friends in WI seemed to be on the same wavelength regarding these toys. But here all of Lyra's friends are into Barbie, Disney Princess, or Fulla. So now she loves pink, only wants to wear dresses, will say things like "that's not for girls". Aaaagh! I hate that.

Monday, April 28, 2008

Saudi Get-Up


I really struggeld trying to figure out how to get the headscarf (shayla) right. The ladies here have a way of wrapping it around their head that I couldn't quite master. Turns out I didn't have to cover my head - so just wore the long black cover (abaya). You can't tell from this picture, but my abaya has two snaps at the top and is then open below so you can actually see what I'm wearing - kind of like a judges robe. After a while, you just forget that you're wearing it. I could see how it could be quite convenient. Just throw an abaya over a nasty t-shirt and shorts slip on a pair of high heels and "voila" you're ready for an evening out.
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India v. Dubai

India. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .v. . . . . . . . . . . . .Dubai

Lush and green. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Dry and dusty

Simple life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . .Materialism gone wild

Organic evolution . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . .. Glass and steel transformation

Centuries of culture . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . Brash newness


I don't know if there are two places that could be more different from one another than Kerala, India and Dubai, UAE. Flying in, I struggled to spot even one thing that wasn't green. Even in the "dry" season, it rains frequently. If something stays in one spot long enough, it will eventually be covered by grass, ivy, plants and moss.

We had our first night in the city of Kochin. A small city by Indian standards, but still it seemed big enough to me (took us 1 hour to drive from the center of town out to the airport). Certainly, you need to set aside your Western perceptions of what is a sufficient life. People live in small homes (we didn't really see homeless people - but I'm sure in the bigger cities we would have seen more). We took a small wander through our neighborhood, just to get a feel. There was a small little restaurant that we stopped in to have dinner. Cost 107 Rupees = US$3 for our entire meal.

The next morning we drove up into the mountains to stay at a hotel in the tea plantation areas. The roads were winding and circuitous the entire way. Our driver, Sujeesh, was an expert at navigating through the traffic. At each blind corner, he would beep his horn. As he manouvered to pass a car, he would beep his horn. As he pulled out into traffic, he would beep his horn. As he passed pedestrians walking on the road, he would beep his horn. I have a friend from India who related a story to us that his dad's car had the horn broken and he stopped driving it. Said he couldn't drive it until the horn was fixed. Now we know why.

All along the road were little villages. In each village, the road was lined with small shops and shoppers. Each little shop specializes in their own products. There was a shop selling aluminum ware. A shop to sell fruit and veg. A shop to sell Ladies Items - never did figure out what this was. A Tyre (yes, spelled the British way) repair shop. A building supply shop. Each shop was about 12 feet across and 15 feet deep. Amazing what they could fit into such a small space. I mentioned to Russell that if you moved there, one of the challenges would be figuring out what store sold what item - no such thing as Target there!

While in the hill country, we met another American couple from Florida, Chip and Karen. We hooked up with them for a dinner on our second night there and really enjoyed our visits and chats with them. Turned out they were heading from there to the same hotel we had booked in our itinerary. We'll definitely try and hook up with them when we're in Florida this coming November.

From the hill country, we headed to a wildlife area near a city called Thekkady. Thekkady had a bit of a hippy groove to it. Lots of Ayuvedic spas, shops featuring linen/cotton clothes, and silver jewelry and beads. Luckily our hotel had a pool. Lyra had been ready for a swim. While swimming around with Lyra, she proceeded to execute a near textbook perfect breast stroke across the pool. She has only been putting her face in the water for a couple of weeks and, until now, struggling with a dog paddle across the water. "Who taught you to do that?" I asked her (thinking of course she would say "Baba"). "Grace (the 10-year old next door)," was her response. "It's called the Pizza." "When did you swim with Grace?" I could only remember a time about 1 month ago when she went to the club with us. "You remember, at the club." OK, so now I'm puzzled. She wasn't putting her face in the water then. She remembered Grace's instructions after several weeks and then executes them perfectly? Wow, Grace has a future as a swimming instructor.

In Thekkady, we went to an elephant park and took our obligatory ride on an elephant. Little did we know that the next day we'd see a report on the news of an elephant going crazy at a Hindu festival and trampling 3 people to death. The television played and re-played the scene of one of the deaths. It was a bit awe inspiring to be on such a powerful animal and I will admit that during our ride I was thinking how we'd escape if the elephant were to suddenly go wild. If I had seen the news beforehand - I'm not sure if we would have gone. The video on the news was really horrifying.

From Thekkady, we headed toward the coastal areas of Kerala called the Backwater area. The land here is essentially flat and at sea level. The locals have built hundreds of miles of canals and levees in the areas to create land for their homes and rice paddies. We stayed at two different resorts in this area. The first was probably the most luxurious of all the places we stayed. We were on the shores of a huge inland waterway. The water hyacinth were forming a vast solid floating mass in front of our hotel. The water birds (cormorants, egrets, and herons) were picking their way across the green surface and plucking little fish out of the water.

The second place we stayed was on an island in the middle of the canals. Russell had a bit of a tummy bug (Ganesh Gurgle) and stayed in the room while Lyra and I went out on a small boat ride through the canals. Each of the banks was lined with small homesteads. The houses are small according to our standards (maybe as big as my dining room). But the people live a simple life of fishing and small farming. All along the banks, the kids would come out and wave to us.






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The fishing was done by nets they call Chinese Fishing nets. The Chinese Fishing nets are strung up on a pulley system made of 4 slim tree trunks bound together into a "X" shape and the net corners are tied to each end of the trunks. In this picture the net is lowered into the water and the rocks hanging on the ropes are the counter-balance to help bring the net up and down. This little scenario is for the benefit of my father and sister who would have been fascinated to see these things working.

That night we had a tremendous thunder storm. Russell and I were startled out of bed by the loudest clap of thunder overhead. Less than a clap, it was more like an explosion. Wow! How Lyra slept through that is beyond me. It was fun to hear the sound of rain falling onto the roof of our room.

Our last day was spent in a couple of the touristy areas of Kochin before heading to the airport. India was a wonderful surprise to us. We enjoyed the friendly people, beautiful sights, delicious food (although you can get tired of Indian food every day), and facinating culture. We'll be planning a trip to more northern areas - maybe next April.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

I'm Sick and Tired

Mostly I'm tired (soul draining lethargy). Sleep helps - temporarily

Sometimes I'm sick (cold, sore throat, aches). Ibuprofen helps - temporarily.

I started using the Dried Ivy Extract we got a couple months ago for Lyra's cold. This stuff works! Dear Readers, please tell me if this is in the US - it's called Prospan.

I just want get better. I'm tired of being tired. My nose is sore. My voice is gravely. I feel like a complete mess. I'm going to bed now.

I Do NOT!!!

At 5am this morning, Lyra opens the door to our bedroom. "Mama, I went pee in my bed. It's on my pyjamas, too." We head down to her room to get things sorted and she tells me, "I was dreaming I was in my bed and I was peeing and then I was really peeing."

I told her of a story when I was her age when I dreamt I was on the toilet and then I accidently peed in my bed. I told her that I was crying and I went to tell my mom. "Why were you crying? I didn't cry." "Yes, I was upset and embarassed," I told her.

Later on, Lyra related her bed wetting story to our house-guest, Lisa (a friend from the UK). She said, "My mama also pees in bed." Lowering her voice to a whisper, "but she's embarassed about it so don't talk to her about it."

Evidently she missed the opening line of my story, "When I was your age . . ." Geez.

Mamacita said...
hahahahahaha!Why do I get the feeling that this is the story that will stick?

Yes, I'm wondering what she's telling the teachers at school. Last night, on the phone she told one of our friends, "Mama and Baba let me drink alcohol." Hello?!?! Please qualify that with "taste a sip". Now I'm a bedwetter who lets my kindergartner booze up.

Sunday, April 13, 2008

She's Back - Jet Girl, That Is

Well, you didn't even know she was gone. It was less than 24 hours.

Someone (me) left the front door open on Friday night. She got out into the garage area. Normally, that would have been it. The 7 foot wall surrounding our front parking area would have kept most cats in. But Jet has the instincts of a huntress - she had to get out. Every time she does this, she immediately regrets her decision. She gets out, can't get back in, and then starts wandering the perimeter of the house crying.

By the time we woke up, she had wandered off. We spent some time looking for her, but figured she was in hiding somewhere. The construction in nearby villas, the air traffic, and cars going up and down the street probably had her cowering in a quiet dark corner.

Russell had the idea to leave the garage door about 3 inches open so she could slink back in during the night. When I took the dogs out for their last walkies, I spotted her across the street. I turned around and shut the dogs behind the gate so that I could run across the street. It was her dopelganger - amazingly similar markings.

As I turned around with disappointment, I saw the dogs tearing out of the gate chasing a dark shadow - Jet Girl. What is it with me and closing doors today? Clive is not "cat friendly" (I must remember to tell this to the K9 charity). He's not murderous, just aggressively curious - scares the pants of me (and the cats) each time he has a run in with them. I just wish they'd give him a real smack across the face and teach him a lesson.

The chase went across the street, then back to our villa, around the next door neighbor's cars, and finally Jet tried to leap onto an electrical outbuilding. She was running for her life! Clive was in hot pursuit, and Basil was egging him on. I was chasing behind pell-mell trying to grab for a leash, collar, fur, whatever. I finally got the dogs collected and tethered to a post outside. I carefully picked up a growling Jet, holding her a safe distance from my body. Like a drowning person, she is known to attack her rescuer. Last summer, she clawed my face and pierced my eyebrow - actually having to shake her paw to get her claw dislodged from the corner of my eye. I don't think Body Ritual could have done a better job.

Today she's sleeping the day away. That cat definitely has 9 lives. I think she used 2 on this occassion.

Puppy Love

Lyra told me today, "I told Hazar I'm in Puppy Love. She said, 'I'll turn you into a puppy.' But I told her 'NO, I'm IN Puppy Love.'"

"What's Puppy Love," I asked her wondering where does she get these things.

"It's when you fancy someone," she said. "I fancy Ahmed and Sultan."

"Who told you it's Puppy Love," I asked.

"Baba" - Yes, of course.

"Ahmed tries to get my attention at school. He says 'hey' and then winks at me. Today I tried to put the glue stick in Sultan's face. He went like this (making a strange face) and then ran away."

Ahhh (sigh), young love.

Oh - Hello Readers

Yes, I've been busy and tired and feeling a bit under the weather and oh did I say tired - yes (sigh) tired.

Hmmm, what have I been up to? Oh yeah, I was in Saudi last week. That went well. I really enjoyed it. Everyone was super nice. I had to wear an abaya (it's compulsory for all women). So, unlike here where the only women wearing black abayas and shaylas are the locals, in Saudi all women wear an abaya (the black gown). But you're not required to wear a shayla (head covering). I had dinner a couple of nights with folks from the office. Most of the wives of the men are non-Muslim or from Muslim countries where women don't cover their heads. So, during dinner, there were several of the women wearing an abaya (like me) without their heads covered. There were also some Saudi couples and women from work. Very cool ladies. Surprisingly, strong willed and fun. I guess that shows you what stereotypes will do - I was expecting the women to be quiet and withdrawn. Ummm - No. One of the nights we were at a Shisha cafe (shisha = hookah) and the women were smoking and enjoying the shisha along with everyone else. So, socially when you meet folks there it seems more outgoing and friendly than here.

But legally, they are still in the dark ages when it comes to women there. When you talk to people, they know it. Many people in Saudi go to University outside of the country (including the women). So, they know what it's like to live outside of this system, but they are patiently waiting for the government to change (hmmmm, this sounds too familiar). There are hints that they are about to allow women to drive (geez - hard to believe they're still debating that). The thought is that they will first allow women to drive during the daytime (some folks are afraid that women will be followed and harrassed in their cars). A couple of years ago, they used to have religious police. But they are now gone (supposedly). That doesn't prevent zealots from going around reporting people to the police and causing trouble (and this is what makes it into the newspapers around the world). And for me to get there was a huge challenge. We applied for my visa 4 times before it was successfully granted. For our company, I was the first woman EVER to visit Saudi Arabia. Add to that, I was unescorted (by male collegues) and it was pretty difficult to get permission.

So, now I'm back. I do have some photos, but they're on the camera and I'm too tired to go get it. I did mention I was tired, right?

Thursday, April 3, 2008

Travel to Saudi

For months I've been trying to arrange a travel visa for me to visit our facilities in Saudi. My application was rejected 3 times before I was successful. The first time it was Ramadan, the second it was the Hajj, the third time we had the wrong paperwork submitted, and now finally I have the visa. I'm going to travel next week.

Yes, I have to wear a black abaya and head cover. Yes, I will post pictures. Saudi is the only country that requires all women (even non-muslims) to be covered. Even in this part of the world Saudi Arabia is an oddity.

My office in Jeddah has arrange VIP greeting service for me. When I get off the plane, there will be a limosine waiting on the tarmac for me. Evidently he drives me from the tarmac directly to the hotel - how cool is that? I've been instructed to tell the driver I'm the guest of Sheikh Saleh Binladen. Yes, you read that right, Bin. Laden.

Our sponsor in Saudi is brother of the infamous Osama. He says, "Every family has their black sheep." Um, yeah . . . right.