Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Igor (eee-gor)
When she was getting ready for bed, I asked her what the movie was about. Here's her synopsis:
Well a monster makes another monster. She's really really big and she doesn't know how to say anything. She talks like she's a baby. And another monster tells all the monsters that they need to be evil and that it should be dark all the time. But he was wrong. And so the big monster is trying to destroy everything, but the other monster - the one who made her - tells her that she doesn't need to be evil. And so, she was destroying every thing and then she stopped. It wasn't magic or anything, she just stopped. I don't really know how that happened.
I'm always fascinated by the details that she picks up on. Sometimes she will ask me, "Remember that movie where the dog was wearing the red collar?" - or something equally obscure. If I ask for more details, she'll sometimes be able to give a better clue. But often it will be something like, "You know, the one where the red collar was shiny and the dog was wearing it." If I'm still stumped, she pulls out the pre-teen angst - "You JUST DON'T GET IT!"
The other day - I overheard a similar dialogue with Russell and he responded with, "Don't get sassy with me - I'm trying to understand what you're saying." Tears ensued.
Lyra's especially emotional when she's going through a growth spurt. She ate three bowls of last night's soup and then a large breakfast this morning. Let this be a warning to us. Eggshell alert.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
They're Moving the Road
They're moving the street outside my office 6 feet to the left. It's hard to may be see it in the picture. It's a one-way frontage road along one of the main arteries of Dubai, Sheikh Zayed Road. On the right of the red & white barriers is where the current street runs. On the left is where the new road will go.
Why? All is a mystery.
Surrounded by Poverty
The majority of the immigrant population here are laborers. Laborers are here by the millions - and queues continually forming for more to come. They work in the massive construction sites, are factory workers, are housemaids or nannies, take care of the gardens, work the fast food restaurants, deliver your dinner. Pretty much the same list of jobs you'd take as a high school or university summer job. Labor immigrants come primarily from the Sub-Continent (India, Pakistan, Bangladesh) or the South Pacific (Phillipines or Indonesia).
In both of these areas, the standard of living is like nothing we live with in the US. It is quite normal for a family of 10 or more (parents, grandparents, and children) to live in small one-room homes. During the night, sleep rolls are spread out as bedding for everyone. People sleep with arms and legs twined about each other through the night. Come morning, the beds are rolled up and the room becomes kitchen/sitting room for the rest of the day. And this is the working class not the poor. Usually people aren't starving (unless some natural disaster has occurred). But meals are simple (rice, fish or veg) and do not vary much from day to day.
For those laborers that come to Dubai, they come for the opportunity to send money back home to help take care of the grandparents and children. There is no minimum wage in Dubai, but there are laws about what an employer must provide for someone coming here to work for them. According to the law, employers must provide housing, transportation, clean water, food, and medical care - in addition to their salary. Their salary is anywhere from $200 - $500/month - depending upon job.
For many laborers, they are provided with a communal room/apartment. The room usually has 3 to 5 bunkbeds (depending upon size). Often there is a little cooker/kitchen area, a shower and bath room on each floor, and sometimes a TV or social room. Of course there is story after story of how this is not the case, it is true that people can be treated inhumanely. But these employers are breaking the law and as with everything there are horror stories. And when you consider what many of these people came from - we might find it overcrowded and lacking privacy whereas they may find it to be comfortable.
If the laborer is working in a household, they often will have their own small room with private bathroom located in the house (or just outside the front or back door). When you see these little small rooms for the first time, you wonder how could anyone live in these rooms. Our maid's quarters would qualify as a bedroom in the US. You can comfortably fit a single bed in there, but a double bed would fill the room. There is a private bath with shower off to the side. Up until now, it has been our basement/gararge storage area. And although it's perhaps more spacious, I wonder if it's a bit lonely.
And when you're surronded by this - and you hear what are the circumstances of people back home, it feels like you can do just a little bit to help them by "hiring" chores done. From the beginning, we've had someone coming over to clean the house. At first it was a couple days a week - and then we went to daily. We pay her about $220/month for a few hours cleaning each day. She nearly doubles her salary - and then we find out that she has to give this to her employer to re-imburse him. Although I wonder if he keeps only part of it - otherwise why would she do this? And when she works for us on Friday (her off day) - she gets to keep the money. We also have a man who comes by on Thursdays to wash the cars (and boy do they get dusty in one week). He washes both of ours and the neighbor's next door, too. We each pay him about $40/month. Really, he's a poor car washer, but we can't stand to fire him because we know he needs the money - and it's a way for us to help. And we have pool service come by twice per week, but I don't know what he's paid since we pay a fee to the pool company (but probably he earns $200 -$300/month).
Recently our housekeeper approached us about an alternative situation. She had a neighboring friend who was losing her place to live (the family were headed back to Lebanon). And her friend really wants to stay - since she has to support her son back home. And would we be willing to take on this woman as our maid to live in our maid's quarters? And with all the families moving out - she really worried about finding a new place. And even though we like Myla, she is unpredictable and can go for several days or weeks without showing up if something is going on at her own house. So, we said yes. And now we're getting a live in maid.
It feels odd. But I do feel I have a different perspective on live-in help than I might have had when we first moved here. It feels a bit like we have the means to help - and she needs to work - so we should.
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
A Ride on a Pirates' Ship
Lyra wondered how far away it was. Is it 20 meters? No. 20 Blocks? No, somewhere in between there - maybe 2 blocks. I could tell it was her way of hinting that maybe we could head over there after dinner. I told her we could and asked her what ride she'd like to go on if we went.
"The Boat," she answered without hesitation. I could tell this was a ride I could probably stomach - so agreed that we could go on after dinner. "If it makes your stomach upset, I could go by myself," she volunteered. As we continued to watch in the distance Lyra queried, "I wonder if I could scream as loud as they can." I assured her she could - but to please not try it now.
When we wandered over to the amusements, we checked with the ride monitor if he'd allow Lyra on. He nodded and we went to go get our tokens. I'm sure you've seen these rides at the carnival before. They look like a boat with about 5 or 6 rows of seats on each end facing toward the center. When the ride gets going it rocks back and forth - like a big swing. If you're lucky to be positioned on the far outer seats, you end up looking straight down during the upswing of your end. Our boat was a pirates' ship complete with crows nest.
Lyra and I were the only ones to get tokens, so we had full choice of where to sit. We positioned ourselves toward the middle. I was feeling a bit nervous that the full-on downward tilt from the end seats would be overly scary. But she seemed in a wild mood and was ready for the thrill. As the boat started swinging - I got nervous all of a sudden that Lyra would be flying out of the ride - so I grabbed her around the shoulders. And then she started screaming - and she was just as loud as the others.
Gradually, we picked up height and Lyra yelled, "I feel like I'm going to pee my pants. Every time I look down, it feels like I need to pee. Do you feel like you need to pee?" The next few swings were hilarious as she screamed each time, "Oh no, I'm going to pee my pants." Then she told me, "Just don't look. Close your eyes. It's much better that way." But of course, she couldn't keep her eyes closed and continued screaming and having a ball.
As we got off, we both were laughing and looking for another thrill ride. She wanted to go on the swings which are on a chain and then spin around in a circle, but I was too nervous that she'd slip out. We checked on a few other rides, but the other monitors wouldn't let her on. So, in the end, she went on a kiddie roller coaster. She looked at it and wistfully said, "I just wish it was going a bit faster." Yes! Another coaster rider in the family.
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Things I Like
1. Curling up in bed with Lyra when she can't fall asleep.
2. Peanut Butter
3. Russell waking up early to visit with me before I leave for work.
4. Drivers who give a friendly wave when I've just let them merge in front of me.
5. Discovering a book that just makes me want to read and read and read until I'm done.
6. A really great salad (cottage cheese, blue cheese sprinkles, a little ham, some pickled beets, chick peas, and a sprinkle of chow mein noodles).
7. My little red sports car.
8. Finding a parking space right by the door.
9. Kids with good manners.
10. The ring of the bell during yoga meditation.
11. Basil's cute little pink tongue sticking out while he sleeps.
12. Sticky, gooey cinnamon rolls.
13. Changing into lounging clothes after a day at work.
14. The trumpet (or trombone) flourish to signify All Things Considered is on.
15. Laying on the couch at Dad & Susie's with nothing to do.
16. Brandy Manhattan at DiMarini's on a dark winter Friday evening.
17. Scoring a baseball game.
18. Having a housekeeper.
19. Thunderstorms with lots of big giant cracks of thunder.
20. Watching Lyra and Russell when they don't know I'm there.
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Things I Don't Like
I Don't Like:
1. Dishes put away so that the big item is teetering on top of the smaller one(s).
2. Same dish falling out of the cupboard onto my head or foot.
3. Getting downstairs and realizing that I left something in my bedroom (up on the 3rd floor).
4. People who won't hold the lift when they can hear you walking toward the open door.
5. The same people who hit the "close door" button as you are getting off so that the doors slam onto you as you exit.
6. Drivers who "dash around" in rush hour traffic just to get ahead of one car.
7. Someone who's willing to do a half-assed job and let down the members of their team.
8. People who stir up hate and fear.
9. Mint/Menthol lip balm.
10. Cars that don't allow you to adjust the shoulder belt height (cutting across my neck).
11. When someone believes that others are beneath them or less deserving than them.
12. Cough drops.
13. Waking up before my alarm and not getting back to sleep.
14. Even worse, falling back to sleep and oversleeping my alarm.
15. Filling my car with gas.
16. Putting folded laundry away.
17. Answering the phone.
18. Clutter.
19. Saying good-bye to visitors.
20. Watching medical dramas.
Friday, May 8, 2009
Flamingos
On a clear day (which today is NOT) I can see from my office over to the sactuary that is on the horizon. Today, the horizon is a beigey haze of dust (have I ever mentioned how dusty this place gets?) As Dubai has expanded, the limits of the sanctuary have been redrawn (smaller of course). Now they're planning some housing development called Flamingos. And wouldn't you know it will border right onto the water. But still - a fairly generous plot of mud and salt flats have been set aside for them.
The hides that were built use a traditional Arabic building style called wind tunnels. In the days before A/C, these were built to help cool the houses and buildings. They look like super fat chimneys sticking up above the rooftop levels. As winds go by, they have cross-walls that catch the breeze and direct it down into the building. We were amazed to find how effective they were at keeping the bird observation buildings a super comfortable temperature on a hot day. We're anxious to go back now that the super sweltering days of summer have set in to see what it's like on a 40 degree day.
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Turkey
Monday, May 4, 2009
Easter
Russell grilled racks of lamb - his new speciality! Yum. Coming to a cook out near you - that will be an oft-repeated dish.
And us! Unfortunately, no pictures of the egg hunt. At 6am, I was woefully unprepared for pictures. Needless to say the girls were running everywhere in search of their goodies.
Later, when everyone went home, I know that some didn't take their fair share of the eggs. We made two batches of egg salad plus several mornings and lunches with boiled eggs. I'm sure we had at least 2 dozen eggs from the morning.
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Swimming
Last year, Lyra made the leap from needing a swimming vest to being comfortable swimming around without one. She still didn't venture too far away from the side of the pool, but was willing to swim about 5-10 yards toward us. And for the most part, she still needed to be in water that wasn't over her head.
This year, it looks like Lyra will learn to be a lot more comfortable swimming down into the deeper areas of the pool. She's been able to tread water a little bit and is feeling more and more comfortable with diving for pool toys down into the deep. Sooner or later, I still want her to get some swimming lessons, but for now - I'm just glad that she's getting a lot of opportunities to swim and get comfortable in the water.
Over the winter, we've had a bit of a break in swimming. Our pool out back doesn't have a heater - and I was surprised how many months of the year it's really out of commission. Part of it is that it doesn't really get a full day of sunshine until mid-April and that's about when it's warm enough for me. Russ got into it sometime in late March I think. Then in about late September or mid-October it's again too cold. So a good portion of the year where we really don't use it. We've thought about getting a heater - would cost about $1,400 or something like that. But never did it - and now there's only one more winter left in our stay here.
The pool at the health club is temp controlled - so we can use that a bit more. But after about November and until the end of January it's too chilly for swimming - at least for me it is. So, we do have a couple months of the year where we don't swim that much.
Sorry for the recent pause in blogging. I've had a few issues getting pictures to post onto my entries. And rather than figure it out, I've been a bit lazy.
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
View from my chair
Here's what I look at every day from the chair at my desk.
This is one of the stations for the Dubai Metro. A couple months ago, the Dubai Metro put all their station names up for sale. So, companies, individuals, or anyone who wanted could put in a bid to have the naming rights for different stations. I haven't heard who won - so couldn't tell you what the name of this station will be. But just like everything around here - they probably will never go by their official name.
Our street is 23b Street. No one, not even taxi drivers seem to know the name of our street. Well, maybe some of the taxi drivers, but not all of them. So, how do we tell people where we live? We start from a commonly known landmark and then give directions. Our street is "from the Spinney's roundabout take the road to the t-junction, turn left and our street is the second left".
So, this station will probably be known as "the station opposite the Fairmont hotel".
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
These Are NOT Some of Her Favorite Things
Lyra: Wow, that was quick. Have you already brushed your teeth?
Me: No, I'll do that later. (Thinking of the glass of wine I was going to have after her bedtime.)
L: I always like to do the hardest things first.
M: What are the hardest things?
L: Well, not really hard, but the things I don't like. Like brushing my teeth and brushing my hair. I don't really like to do that, so I do that first.
M: What about putting on your pajamas?
L: That's easy. But I don't like putting my pajama top over my head. That makes me feel weird.
M: Well, if you don't want to wear a pajama top, that's ok, too. (Knowing that there's no way Lyra would go for that - she likes to have her PJs on.)
L: No, I can put them on quickly or sometimes they can unbutton.
As we were in my room, I was getting my clothes out for work the next day and sorting through my sports bag to get fresh clothes for yoga. When we were done getting everything ready for the morning, I said to Lyra:
M: I'm glad that's sorted! That's one of my least favorite things to do.
L: Why?
M: I just don't like to have to put away all my clothes that I wore today and then figure out what I'm going to wear tomorrow. I'm glad to have that done and ready for the morning.
L: I like choosing clothes. But I don't like putting clothes away, do you?
M: No, not really. But I like having my room tidy, so I try to put them away.
L: I don't like folding. That's why I like to wear dresses. Because it's only one thing and then when you take it off, you only have to fold one thing.
M: (hmm, interesting insight - I didn't know this) Well what if you have to wear bloomers or shorts with your dress? Then you need to fold two things.
L: Well, I guess that's the thing about nature.
M: (not exactly sure, but thinking she means - well, that's how it is sometimes). You're very good at folding. I'm surprised you don't like it - usually we like things that we're very good at.
L: Yeah, but I don't like it. But Baba does. He likes folding.
M: (nearly laughing) Hmmm, I don't think so. He does it because we have a lot of laundry, but I don't think he really likes it.
L: I think he does. And so does Myla (the woman that come to clean the house).
M: Well, Myla probably doesn't like it either. Not many people do.
Monday, April 13, 2009
It's Raining Mud!
I heard the rain around 3am this morning as I was in bed. Usually, when it rains here, the rain lasts for about 15 - 20 minutes. Long enough for the rain to pick up all the sand and dust in the air and rain mud all over everything outside. It's not the cleansing soaking rain that we're used to in the mid-west. But today, it rained for several hours - a slow steady rain. And by the time I was up this morning there was enough wetness to actually start to feel like things were getting cleaned off a bit.
Yesterday, there was a small sand storm, so everything (EVERYTHING) was coated in a fine dusting of fine powder. So, at first, the rain was just creating little mud puddles on everything. When I got into my car and switched on the windshield wipers the sand was whipped up and smeared all over the windsheild. However, as I drove in, the rain got heavier and did a nice job of washing off the front and top of the car - the sides are still in need of some serious washing down.
When I look out over the gulf, there look to be some huge storm clouds out there. I'm not exactly sure which direction they're moving, but if it's coming this way, we're going to have a doozy of a thunderstorm today. I missed the last one when I was traveling - so it would be great to see huge booming thunder & lightning.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Is Yoga a Cold Prevention Remedy?
But then last week, I started getting a cold. Since I've been travelling, I haven't been going to yoga as regularly as I normally do, so I'm left wondering if my drop off in yoga left me more vulnerable or if it was just my imagination that yoga was keeping the colds at bay. Certainly, since I've returned home and re-started my yoga routine, I seem to be doing better again (that is until yesterday when I felt the full-on return of aches). That could also be because I went to the water park on Friday in brisk windy 70 degrees. Who's to know.
There are two poses that are supposed to be particularly good at helping your immunity.
The shoulder stand (no, this is not a picture of me) is called the "queen of poses". As you do this pose, you are tucking your chin into your chest and massaging your thyroid gland. This is supposed to help release a lot of toxins from your thyroid - which can only be good, right? When I first started doing this pose, I'd actually get a bit claustrophobic because having my chin tucked in so far made it more difficult to breathe. So, you do have to figure out how to breathe a bit differently, which forces air into new parts of your lungs - also helping to clear areas of your lungs that don't normally get much air.If you're good at this pose, you should hold it for 1-3 minutes. Usually, I end up holding it for about 1 minute in my classes (or some variation of the pose).
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One word of warning, this pose requires some warm up - so don't just try it - first do some full-body stretches beforehand..
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The headstand is another great pose for helping your immunity. Yoga theory holds that there's great benefit in being upside down (inverted). It helps to direct blood into different parts of your body and forces different breathing (as in the shoulder stand). The headstand is particularly great for helping to deliver blood to your head - specifically to your pituitary gland. This gland helps regulate several hormones in your body and can be a great source of benefit for many different symptoms. But specifically for colds, it helps to clear your chest of congestion and directs a different pressure onto your diaphram to breathing into different areas of your lungs.This pose doesn't require much warm up - but you may want to do it against a wall if you're worried about falling over.
So, the next time you feel a cold coming on, give these two poses a try for a couple of days and see if they help.
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Enough About the G20 Wives
Last night, I dreamt I was on a business trip in Cairo with all the management team in the Middle East. And like the G20, there were spouses along for the trip. Somewhere in my dream, I realized I had been given the itinerary for all the spouse events. And by the time I realized this, the meetings were nearly over. Being a dream and all - of course it made sense that I didn't realize this until later.
Once I realized, I was in a huge panic trying to find the meeting rooms where the business meetings were going on. And I kept being pulled back into the spouse meetings because for some reason Lyra had come along with me and not Russell. So, of course someone needed to watch her - and there was no time for my meetings or finding my meetings or even understanding what was going on. And I kept saying to myself, next time I really can't bring Lyra on a business trip.
Turns out all the spouse events were being held in my hotel room and the bell hop kept warning me that someone was running up a huge telephone bill by making international calls from my room. Plus, they kept trying to delivery someone else's laundry to the room but I wouldn't sign for it or accept the charges. Needless to say, the laundry service was fairly miffed and kept bringing around other spouses to tell me that I should take the trousers. But really, they were red flannel with matching red fez and I could see no way that I would actually use them.
In the end, a giant snowball the size of a small car flew across the sky and hit a radio tower which fell across the hotel and we all fled as a fire ensued.
Thursday, April 2, 2009
I Guess It's Been Raining
Others in our building reported that they could feel the building sway in the gusts of wind. Hmmm, we're only on the 19th floor - I'm not so sure about that, but I'm no physicist or building engineer so maybe it's possible. I can only imagine the swaying that was going on in the Burj Dubai. Our crews are working on the 14oth through 150th floors of that building. I'd like to hear the stories they have to tell. Another reason why I'm thinking I wouldn't like to live in that building.
My number one reason for not wanting to live on the 150th floor of the Burj Dubai - the elevators. I cannot imagine how totally boring it would be to ride up and down those elevators every day. Even if they have some special high speed lift - it can't be high speed enough. Can you imagine getting to the underground parking and realizing you left something up in the flat - and having to go ALLLL the way up again to get it. Aggggh - I don't have the patience. Living there would eventually drive me batty.
Turkey was fantastic - as usual. I'll say it again - Istanbul is one of the world's best cities. We were glad to have some cool weather and rain just as a break from hot and sunny Dubai (little did we know how much we were missing back home). The first day or so were quite gloomy, but after that the weather got pretty good. In Cappadocia, we were surprised to find nearly 3-4 inches of snow. It certainly made the landscape beautiful - and if possible even more magical. But we weren't ready for snow and hadn't really packed for that kind of weather. That didn't stop us from getting out to tour and even taking a couple of hikes. The last 2 days were stunning. We took a hot air balloon ride (a first for all of us) and then a nice long hike on the last day to put an exclamation point on a fantastic visit. Pictures are coming.
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Tasmanian Devil

Recently he was searching for Tasmanian Devils (don't ask me why). The adults are pretty fierce, but the babies are so cute! Click here.
Editors Note: April Fools, you've been Rick Rolled. Yes, amygirl, trying to share my pain. Not such a clever April Fools joke, but I tried.

